I’ll admit it, I am on a wedding show and bridal magazine binge. I’m sitting here, watching “Say ‘Yes’ to the Dress” and getting frustrated by the lack of reflection about what a woman wants from her dress. A wedding dress can say SO much about a woman from her style and personality to how big her dreams are or what’s really important to her.
Sure, many people don’t know the names of all the cuts, necklines, or fabrics. Even if a woman has grown to think she will never get married or she hasn’t been planning her dream wedding since she was 5 years old, she has to know that she must own her dress because 1)she is wearing it for most of the big day and 2)all eyes are on her. You could say that she shouldn’t care what other people think of the dress, as long as she likes it. This is true for me. But those searching for a dress have to think one step further than that–what kind of statement does this woman want to make on her wedding day?
And what is with bringing a million people to a dress fitting? Of course there are those certain people we need there, be it a mother, sister, best friend or what have you. But do you really need more than 3 or 4 people to weigh in on your dream dress? Methinks not. I am the type of person who would love to have a lot of people there to let them share in the fun, but still be able to stand up to whoever has something negative to say towards something I like. I like attention, okay? Sometimes I really can’t catch some detail or style that doesn’t suit me and that’s why I would have a handful of people there… but I just really want to love my dress and if I find the one, then it doesn’t matter what other people think. People can say whatever they want about my dress, or any of my wedding details for that matter, but if people are so set on judging the big day instead of enjoying it… then they probably shouldn’t show up. Maybe I don’t need so many guests after all!
It’s crazy to watch the staff work on SYTTD, because they realize how much emotional investment comes from all parties involved. There are also so many other issues to consider from body image to family tensions and asserting independence. All brides can agree on one thing: we should all look and feel perfect on our wedding day. But whose opinion, style, and vision mold that image of perfection is another story altogether. The SYTTD consultants can read people, situations, and styles so well–it really is a talent! To gain a sense of all the dynamics at play and pull a dress that speaks to the bride’s needs and influences… all in a single appointment? MADNESS, I tell you. Just one of the many reasons why there is so much money in the wedding industry.
Who knows, maybe I’ll just throw all of this out then window and be a total wreck trying to find the dress. One thing I do know: I will own my wedding dress. Happy dress hunting to all the brides-to-be!